Week Long Social Hiatus

Last week I took a break from social media.

I don’t know why I never have before. It was nice, and I wasn’t as tempted to check as much as I thought I would be. I didn’t miss anything noteworthy, either. A week isn’t a long time, but it was long enough for me to break my dependence on my phone.

This technology is crazy. I really enjoyed the purge. Yet when I opened one of my social apps up again, which I wasn’t even in a rush to do, all the anxieties and the urges to refresh and get new content that felt so distant during my time away came flooding back immediately.

I’ve put some barriers on my usage before.

Throughout high school, I had a strict policy that if it didn’t happen on my page, it didn’t happen. But I eventually gave into scrolling my timeline and news feed and whatever because I felt like I was being too self-centered.

I turned off all push notifications over a year ago. It was a huge help, but over time the addictive nature of my personality found some other way to obsess and constantly refresh the page when I opened my apps.

Aimless scrolling and obsessive refreshing. I hate it. It’s like checking the fridge every twenty minutes knowing damn-well there’s nothing in there you want. And the past week was the wake up call I needed to actively fight against this crap. I felt so much better not worrying about anything going on that wasn’t directly in front of me. I want to continue being more present in my own life. Y’all don’t need to know half the stuff I usually post about my life online. And I definitely don’t need to know who’s watching, liking, or commenting all the time when I do post content.

So I’ve decided to change three things.

1.) I’m leaving my phone across my room when I sleep so social media isn’t the first thing I engage with when I wake up.

2.) I’m not going to look at who’s viewed my stories on IG and Snapchat, or scroll through who liked my posts. I’ll only concern myself with comments and real engagement.

3.) I’m limiting myself to checking my notifications and scrolling a little bit three times a day for no longer than 30 minutes.

I’m not saying all of this to be profound or anything. I’m not doing anything new or noteworthy. But I think we could all use a sociality check. Sociality, get it? Cause it’s not IRL? Does that work for everyone, or should I stop? I don’t know, but we’re rocking with it for now. By that I mean we should all take a look at our relationship with this technology every so often. If your habits on social media aren’t making you happy, reevaluate how you use it. And there’s no cut and dry answer. A healthier relationship with my socials was taking better control of my time and not letting it run me. It’s difficult, because old habits die hard and I’ve been droning out looking at screens for I guess a decade now.

The psychological effects of this stuff are serious business. The developers of these advancements don’t use them or let their children use them. That’s scary. We’re just guinea pigs, and there’s nothing in the history of humanity that can help us anticipate what’s to come. And what has come so far has been children committing suicide and mental illness skyrocketing with new media-based diseases being coined every year. I don’t know what the answer is. I don’t know what’s being done or what could be done for the mass public to practice better habits around social technology. So until then, the responsibility rests with individuals. And this individual is trying, at the very least. This is a topic that really interests me. I went to and am going back to school for Emergent Media Studies and Production. If you’ve made changes in how you navigate the web and the socials, let me know and let’s exchange notes and stories.

Hiatus, BRB

And yet again, I have neglected to post on a weekly basis. Goodness why am I so impossible? I’m sorry. But look, check this out. A new year is right around the corner, and I’m ready to actually take this site seriously. Yeah, for real!
I think a big cause of my lack of motivation is that I’ve set up this space as a little uncharted island kind of. I rant, I talk about whatever is on my mind, but that’s it. Outside of being a little funny or relatable, I’m not actually connecting with anyone or anything.

I have a tendency to drift into my own world, and it seems that trait of mine bleeds into my work as well. So, realizing that, I’m turning it around. I’m plugging in to my world, and connecting with people and places and things. I’m nouning, I guess is what I just described. I want to create something that people can get something out of, not just me shouting into cyberspace. I mean, I’ll still do that, but I can afford to write with purpose too. People keep telling me I’m cool, but even if that’s true, I’m sick of me being the only thing on here. There are people doing way cooler things, and there’s super interesting stuff happening around my city, and there are great businesses that I frequent, all of which I want you to know about. I want to support them more. I want to collaborate. I want to contribute to the scene around me.

My island needs a monorail line installed to connect to the rest of civilization. So here’s the plan..
Starting next year, I’m going to add a new tab to my blog, titled {Haven’t Decided Yet}, and under that umbrella will be The Inspiration, The Scene, and The Biz. Oh and The Coffeeshops section is going to be updated way more often than I have been doing.

The Inspiration will be a feature of a Philly(usually) artist/musician/mover and shaker who has my attention. There is so much talent in this place, and seeing these individuals pursue their passions always pulls me out of whatever creative rut I’ve fallen into. I hit those pretty often, and I’m realizing that I need to shift my focus onto the things and that get me back on my grind and keep me there. I’m really excited for this section of the site.

The Scene will be posts about the events I go to around Philadelphia. I don’t understand how anyone gets bored here. There is always at least two things going on at any time of the week, and a lot of them are free or super cheap to do. I stay out of the house, attending as many of these things as I can stand. Usually foodie or music-y in nature, but I switch it up sometimes.

The Biz will be my experiences with different local small businesses, whether it be a salon, or a fashion boutique, or a restaurant. Whatever, I’m writing about it if I like it. Because I try shopping local as much as I can help, and I’d like to shout out great places in town that I like and want to see stick around for a long time.

And I’m going to be more active on the medias. It might kill me a little but I’m going to do it, dammit. You will see me doing things on Twitter. Instagram. I recently joined Tumblr. And I will make a TheSpazmatazz Facebook page. Talk to me sometime. I will respond because I’m totally a social person and I am very forward in the technologies and social meeds and whatnot. Psh. Do I sound like someone going to school for a degree in Emergent Media? I’m working on it, I promise.

I also got my tripod, and will be making videos on Youtube of my rants sometimes too. I’m gonna be all over the place, you guys! Are you ready???
I’m not. But I am looking forward to this, and I want to do it right. So bear(or is it bare? I like bear and I don’t feel like looking it up.) with me as TheSpazmatazz goes dark for the month of December. I’m going to spend this time to bulk up on content to launch in the new year, and set up all of my platforms. If you need me, email me! You’ll find my email under the About page.

Alright, I’ll see you all in 2016! In the meantime, read my older posts and share them with someone who needs to know there are people weirder than them in the world. Byeeeee!